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I believe on of the most important things about being a happy person is giving of yourself.
Give of your time, give of your ear, give of your friendship, give a helping hand, give a hug, give a smile, give give give.
Here is the most important part. Give without expecting to recieve. Give without an alternative motive.
If you give thinking : “This is it, this will make me happy.” Or “If I give them x, then they will be prompted to give me y”. That doesn’t do anything for your psyche than create an inner score board.
If you are going to give, it is best to give wholeheartedly without expectation.
If you allow your husband to sleep in an extra hour on Sunday morning, don’t do it under the thought that he will clean the brunch dishes to make up for it.
If you give a girlfriend a ride to the airport, don’t do it thinking that she will do some favor for you down the road.
Don’t send your sister in law a birthday gift because you feel you must because she always does.
If you give to a friend, don’t do it thinking that they will send you something back.
Give, and give because you want to. If you don’t want to, but are giving just to recieve something (whether that thing be a physical or emotional) then please don’t give. It will most likely lead to resentment, dissappointment or frustration. Is that what we are going for in our positivity project?
We want good happy light hearted feelings.
I have learned to examine my giving nature. I have learned to really think before I am prompted to give. I think whether I am giving out of obligation or because I really want to. I think whether or not I have an expectation attached to my action. I think whether or not this act of giving will feel good or not.
Here is the truth.
If you give with out expectation, I think you will feel wonderful. The feeling of making someone smile, especially when it is unexpected is one of the most wonderful feelings in the world.
I love finding the opportunity to pay it forward. I especially love when there is a situation that speaks to me out of the blue and I can lend something toward it.
It feels like the universe making sense in those moments. It feels like God, making connections here on Earth. I LOVE IT!
During the month of February our city is promoting a month of generosity. We will be participating in it with our kids here and there. I am so happy to spread the love of giving to my children.
You can find the calendar HERE if you are interested in ideas for giving with your family.